something to ponder.

was looking thru my msn while appearing offline, as usual. and i saw fer's friend, martin's blog link. so i checked it out. and i found this.

believe it or not, i teared when i read this.

is it rude of me to just rip this off someone else's blog? but i really want to share.


i have been hearing from quite some frens or read that relationships are getting boring, getting stagnant and etc.. that set me thinking for a while...boring and stagnant...1st of all, things get bored when ure sian of it alr..when it doesnt interest u, thats why its boring...when a relationship gets boring..does it mean that the love cease to exist anymore ? or maybe..is the link between the couple even called love ? cause love's smth so strong..so certain..it never dies out..it's alwaes there..thats call love..its not something u get sick of, or u get bored of..cause love...love is everything..all that everyone, anyone would go after... everyone has a different definition of love...im jus saying from my own point of view..

talking about stagnant...i guess thats what most people feels..after being years into a relationship, the relationship simply does not improve, the affinity doesnt get stronger anymore, things are being taken for granted and the direction of the relationship is nowhere...well..imo..we can all get sick and sian and tired and damn fucking bored of things..cause afterall we're only human...take for example in singapore..its realli damn damn sian...everytime i gotta crack my brain for smth to do or go out..go where..do what..cause there's basically nth much in singapore to do...BUT its about the companion right? not so much the thing u do...really...it all goes down to how u view things..your mentality, your mindset...things that we can do are very limited, but it is how u make it interesting..it is the effort u put in to make the relationship going...it is not forgetting how guys go after their girlfrens at the start..did u all feel sian then? did u get bored of jioing her? did u feel that getting flowers for her was embrassing or stupid? think about it, what kind of dumb stupid stuff u guys did to go after your girlfrens...do u guys still do it now? still give your gals surprises to sweep them off their feet? give them roses and make them blush? sweettalk on the phone til no tmr? do u guys still put in effort into their birthdays? one thing i gotta emphasize, the amt of $ is not directly proportionate to the effort. its about your heart..when u put your heart and soul into it..the simplest things in this world will seem to be the most beautiful and magical to your love ones...we often confuse ourselves that we forget the simple yet impt things...

im not saying what i typed above is absolutely right..its jus my pt of view afterall..mayb some people will think, ure onli with your gal for a yearplus, of course u can say things like that...but hey people, its not about the time rem? people tog for 5 6 years can get seperated, but some people who're tog for a year plus spend the rest of their lifes tog...so think about it...relationship is not merely jus saying 'i love u, i miss u, i think about u every day and nite'. its also not about just going out and having fun. its much much more than that...mayb we shld all give it some thought, why did us got ourselves a companion? for $, for looks for fame ? loneliness? jus want someone there for u? wrong wrong wrong! u chose your companion, u chose cause you felt he/she was someone u could trust, someone you could commit to, whom u could share your happy times and more imptly BAD TIMES tog..its not the happy times that makes a relationship goes forward...ultimate its how to be there for each other...its the 'u can tell me anything in the world and i'll listen', 'even if theres nth i can do to improve your situation, the most i can do is to be here for you'. its the 'u can count on me, i'll be your pillar of support no matter what', its going thru hardtimes, sadtimes, and badtimes..its supporting each other..enduring and tolerating, understand and care...thru every tough experience the relationship levels up...love gets stronger...sharing happy moments are sweet..but going through tough times..is even sweeter..think about it..think about..all of us...whether u've been a few mths, few years into your relationship..think about it..what have you done...is there a aim? a vision for your relationship? what are u all working towards? there must be a goal, a target..a aimless relationship does no where...i wish all couples in love will be together forever=)